“My mum and I were good friends. She was my best friend.
She had ONLY me and my younger sister. I lost my dad when I was 6
My mum sent me through primary till university and
even paid for my masters. She sponsored my little sister too. She only had
primary school education but she was clever. She was 30 years older than me but
we were really close. She sold her land because of many of our bills and fees.
She was the best in the world
Whenever I was sad she was sadder. She knew me
inside out...
My sister later won USA lottery and left us...Me and
my mom became very close. On my wedding day, she was crying a lot, I was
too...But when I got married I started having problems of
my own and slowly I started to forget about her.
Whenever she calls me, I will put up an excuse, I used to think all I needed
was to send her money as my work and marital worries were stressing. She lived
in Eruwa, I live in Lagos I ashamedly refused to bring her to lagos because I
think it would be another worry to me and that maybe my husband wouldn’t like
her despite me not even asking him. I began to distance myself from her; even
though I loved her loads I kept sending her money but was too busy to visit her
in 2years. Continue after the cut...
One day her neighbour phoned me saying she was ill,
I talked to her and I sent money for her treatments. After some days, a doctor
phoned me saying mama needs attention that she had not been taking her drugs
properly and that she had been on her own for two days without care from people
around her. I was upset I started asking where was auntie this? And auntie
that? And because it was on Wednesday I couldn’t visit her but told the doctor
to
arrange care and that I would foot the bill and I
promised to come over on Friday after work.
I arrived Eruwa late Friday evening I couldn’t
believe my eyes when I saw her. She had aged so quickly and her health was
deteriorating. She was glad to see me; she held my hand and whispered I miss
you. Shame enveloped me It was like i was dreaming that I had not seen her for
2years. That alone sent some cold chill up my brain.
She narrated how much she missed me . She was weak
and I started giving her all attentions I had not paid to her. She asked after
my two daughters, again knowing she had not seen her granddaughters for a while
too is heartbreaking.
I was dumbfounded as I could not explain why I
didn’t bring them along. She said it would have been nice to see them again. I
left on Sunday evening cos I had to get back to work on Monday; thank God she
was getting better. She was being treated at home.
As I drove home, it was guilt upon guilt all over
me. I started to think about her effort that made me who I am today. Then I
decided to rent a flat for her within my neighbourhood, I would get her a
personal doctor, and many other exciting thoughts as I drove back to Lagos. On
Monday morning, I was told she had died in her sleep. That devastated me. I
cried my eyes out.
She died because she was not taking her malaria
drugs properly. She was 61years. Everything that I didn't do came rushing back
and hit me like a crash of thunder in my heart. Please, never leave your
parents unattended... your attention is essential; I would empty my account
plus move her down to my room to have her back.
Cherish and respect your mother while you have the
chance.... money isn’t everything...care goes a long way” The most painful
phrase in this world is ‘HAD I KNOWN’
I LOVE YOU ABENI WITH ALL MY WHOLE HEART” Remember,
we only have one mom. Don't deny her, start to cherish her today."
Awww, so touching! Really had I know cometh at last…
Please don’t desert your much.
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